It’s Always Personal…

The reason I became a counsellor, the reason I started running the Indulgence and Self Care Evenings, the reason I began the wellbeing meet ups, the reason I am doing the York Wellbeing Day all come from the place of not wanting people to struggle, not wanting people to not know what is out there to help, not wanting people to be stuck at home feeling hopeless and helpless.

I have been in a place of utter desperation and powelessness and it’s an unpleasant place to be, where people who were supposed to be helping you, dumped you with no support. I was at rock bottom trying to help my children and the therapist backed off, they really needed help and so did I. I decided I would have to learn the techniques needed to help traumatised children, that I would need to learn to take care of myself, to enable myself to look after them. I didn’t know that what I was doing was building a support package, that I was learning how to be a trauma therapist, but that’s what I did.

I bought big, thick text books on play therapy and working with trauma, I drew on everything I had heard the therapist say and set to work on helping my children feel better – I became their therapist, I had set times to work with them, took them out of school for ‘appointments’ with me, because we surely had work to do.

To enable me to do this ‘work’ I had to look after me and I tapped in to yoga, massage therapy, reiki, essential oils, EMDR, Hypnotherapy, counselling, learning a musical instrument and creative crafts.

This is what the Indulgence and self care and craft evenings are all about, giving people choices so they can create their own support package and what the York Wellbeing Day is all about. The events I have done have very much been about women, women have connected with the message and enjoyed the events and accessed choices for them. I would also like to reach men and give them choices to take better care of themselves.

Even after all the hard work, the therapy, the support, the intervention…..

Suicide looms large in our house, it is talked about every day, the damage done by terrible parents has a huge impact on us, despite all the work I did/do as an adoptive parent and therapeutic parent, much damage was done in those early months. Sometimes I have to steal myself to open the bedroom door in the morning and wait until I see signs of breathing and breathe a sigh of relief for another day.

So the work continues and the reasons why I want women AND men to join us at our York Wellbeing Day.

With me, it’s always personal and there’s always a cause to fight for.

Want to get involved with the York Wellbeing Day or other events I have coming up? Give me a shout.

Juliet x

07910 237983

Event Tickets:

Who are our wonderful therapists at Choice Indulgence Evening @middlethorpe?

We are so pleased to be in the gorgeous setting of Middlethorpe Hall. We have hired out the Barlow Room, a specialist room for events just like ours, a lovely quirky room where we are having a fabulous range of therapists and practitioners – one of our best yet.

With just a few hours until our event at The KP Club in Pocklington, it’s a privilege to be having our evening events in such lovely locations.

So who is going to be at Middlethorpe Hall on 14th March?

Jude Robinson – Good Vibrations – Taster Soul Plans
Adela Parzanese-Guerrero – Neal’s Yard – Facials & hand/arm massage
Yvonne Lynn – Your Spirit Matters – Reiki P.E.P Talk
Hazel Smith – Jar Half Full – Reflexology
Lisa Wiles – Hands That Heal – Massage
Elaine White – Natural Entrepreneurs Workspace – Workspace consultations
Lisa & Sammy – Middlethorpe Spa – Facials
Kate Bunney – Magnetix Wellness Bunney – Magnetic Therapy (Kate is doing our show stopper workshop too)
Mike Phan – MPRS – Fitness Consultations
Jayne Brown – Gorgeous Forever Living products
Viv Chamberlin-Kidd – Essentially Shamanic – Aromatouch Hand Massage
Gemma Harris – Harris Sports Massage – Massage

Together we book you in for a 15 minute taster session, you can take part in the show stopping workshop, and receive a complimentary glass of fizz and book yourself in for further sessions for the evening.

Grab one of our 4 remaining tickets:

See you there

Why connect with other wellbeing businesses?

I’ve thought for a while, that you need to be selective about your networking (whatever form that takes). You could end up charging around the county, trying a ton out, forking out hundreds of pounds for the big referral groups and making slow progress.

You need a goal for the networking, if you are hoping for referrals, choose your group wisely.

Networking is not just about referrals, however, it may be that you want to learn about other businesses and how they operate, it maybe that you want to meet new people and have a social element to networking, it may be that you want to meet like-minded people or collaborate. It maybe that you are after training, workshops or business support (or all of the above!)

What ever your reasons, be clear about them. You may join different groups for different reasons. I go to a variety of groups: one group is very supportive, one group has a good social element and one group where I have much clearer business goals.

So why have I started my own wellbeing group?
There are a few reasons actually: I want to meet other people in the industry, I want to work with them through my own business, I think people working as therapists come at business in a different way to many other business owners and I think this group of business owners is unique in many ways. It can be a useful means of support for those of us who work hard to support others therapeutically.

Would you find the group useful?
Do you answer yes to any of the following?
– I work with clients and would find the group supportive
– My ideal client is someone who works in the wellbeing industry.
– I want to collaborate with wellbeing professionals
– I have client referrals I would like to pass on and receive back
– I want a chance to reflect on my business practice
– I would like signposting for business training
– I want support with moving up and on in my business

At the moment the group is free as it gets established, soon we will charge a small fee to facilitate the group – your first meeting is free, so you get a chance to see if it’s for you.

Register here to secure your place in this unique group.


Have we all got a book in us?

I started writing a book…..

Many of us think we have a book in us, I certainly do. However, to write a book requires a tremendous amount of time, dedication, thought and most importantly emotional energy.

I didn’t get past half a chapter or so, however, I am proud of what I did write and I certainly found it cathartic and thought provoking.

I thought it might make an interesting series of short blogs. The emphasis is upon looking after ourselves. We have to ensure we are “fit enough” to manage our work and family life. Driving ourselves to burnout helps absolutely nobody.

Here is an introduction I wrote around 12 months ago:

“There’s an event. a catalyst in your life, some bad news, a diagnosis, something from the past re-appears. It floors you – how do you cope? Where do you turn? Who do you turn to?

For me it was a piece of overwhelming news the type that sends you on a seemingly never ending downward spiral. Anger, dismay and deep, debilitating sadness. Something that feels unrecoverable from. My view of the world changed.

No one will understand, no one wants to hear such news.

But here I am happy, running a business and very proud of my family, five years on from that terrifying news.

What did I do to support myself and my family? I subconsciously created my support package and you can too…..”

Just from this short introduction you can start to see why I feel the work I do and in particular the Indulgence Evenings are so important to me. I offer you choices on how to support yourself through whatever you are going through. They evening is about indulgence, however, for me the therapies and treatments are about support and at times survival.

I have and do use all these therapies and more at times. Many of the therapists and practitioners I have worked with, I found them supportive, helpful and I enjoyed working with them.

Come along and meet them (and me if you haven’t already, I am doing a mini-workshop on Emotional Intelligence on the evening).

Pssst, as I always do, I have 5 extra special half price tickets for you lovely people, this offer ends on Sunday night at 11:30pm.

I look forward to welcoming you.

 Juliet x