Self-Care – why it’s so important

I read an interesting article this morning and I thought I would pick out the interesting bits to share with you. The original article was aimed at therapists who work with clients who have experienced significant trauma. It was extolling the virtues of self-care for the therapists. I can see how the explanation could be relevant for so many people, so this is my take. I would love to hear your thoughts on it.

We know that self-care is talked about a lot, we are encouraged to look after ourselves, take time out, and have some ‘me time’. It feels indulgent, maybe even a waste of money, however, what follows may change your mind.

In order for me to function at a high level for my family and work, I need a support package, a support framework in order to operate at those high standards, this translates as my ‘me time’.

It is no accident that many of the self care experiences we enjoy most, are things that link us to childhood experiences of nurturing – such as hugs, massage and being read to (and in my case chatting to a trusted person).

So we have to take action, we can’t ‘think’ ourselves into better self care, it’s about taking action. These actions support the healthy function of the lower parts of the brain. A lot of self care does not involve words it is something we ‘experience’ and these experiences are usually body based and help us to feel safe and well and support our brains and body experience regulation. (control, management)

If our brain and body feel regulated, we feel calm and vice versa. Being able to stay calm through the use of regular self-care enables us to think more clearly and deal with all that life throws at us and in my case deal with the people I encounter in my business and life.

A one off experience is not going to cut it, in order to build strong habits of self care and therefore a stronger brain (with strong neural connections) we need repetition (this is the same for all activities). A one off class or treatment is lovely, however, it won’t make a significant difference to our wellbeing, we need lots of practice!

Someone else may recommend a course of action, a type of therapy, a class. You are unique and have unique needs for your self care blend or package. My ‘package’ consists of a monthly massage, a monthly reiki session, twice a week fitness class, regular meet ups with like minded business owners, regular bubble baths, regular craft workshops, yoga sessions and hugging my children. Yours may well be zumba, reading, shopping and meditation!

I feel a seasonal snowflake analogy coming up! Like snowflakes we are unique, vary in size but are all beautiful. So do yourself the best favour ever, you owe your body, brain and ability to feel calm to your self-care.

Self-care enables me to do the job I love and take care of the family I love. It doesn’t bear thinking about where we would be without it.

Take care
Juliet x

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Join us for a fabulous Self-Care Evening just outside York with treatments, workshops and gorgeous products on 16 May 2018

Who are our wonderful therapists at Choice Indulgence Evening @middlethorpe?

We are so pleased to be in the gorgeous setting of Middlethorpe Hall. We have hired out the Barlow Room, a specialist room for events just like ours, a lovely quirky room where we are having a fabulous range of therapists and practitioners – one of our best yet.

With just a few hours until our event at The KP Club in Pocklington, it’s a privilege to be having our evening events in such lovely locations.

So who is going to be at Middlethorpe Hall on 14th March?

Jude Robinson – Good Vibrations – Taster Soul Plans
Adela Parzanese-Guerrero – Neal’s Yard – Facials & hand/arm massage
Yvonne Lynn – Your Spirit Matters – Reiki P.E.P Talk
Hazel Smith – Jar Half Full – Reflexology
Lisa Wiles – Hands That Heal – Massage
Elaine White – Natural Entrepreneurs Workspace – Workspace consultations
Lisa & Sammy – Middlethorpe Spa – Facials
Kate Bunney – Magnetix Wellness Bunney – Magnetic Therapy (Kate is doing our show stopper workshop too)
Mike Phan – MPRS – Fitness Consultations
Jayne Brown – Gorgeous Forever Living products
Viv Chamberlin-Kidd – Essentially Shamanic – Aromatouch Hand Massage
Gemma Harris – Harris Sports Massage – Massage

Together we book you in for a 15 minute taster session, you can take part in the show stopping workshop, and receive a complimentary glass of fizz and book yourself in for further sessions for the evening.

Grab one of our 4 remaining tickets:

See you there

Let Love be Your Energy

As the year is winding down, it has put me in reflective mood.

I caught the end of Radio 2’s ‘Pause for Thought’ this morning, I missed most of it, however, the contributor was summing up and said the words, “Let Love be Your Energy” and it struck me, this is what moves me forward. I have found untold strength and energy from the love of my adopted children, battled negativity from every turn – with the thought – I don’t care what you think of me – when it comes to my business, I just want people to take care of themselves, and for my family, I just want you to understand and consider how you treat people.

It feels like my business is always evolving, I change what I offer and sometimes who I work with. However, the common thread through everything I do is ‘support’. Working one to one with counselling clients, offering business support to therapeutic business owners, providing therapy mini-sessions through the Choice Indulgence Evening and running DIY Pamper Evenings and Parties. I feel like I will always be someone who is motivated and enthused by change and project work (perhaps why running events appeals to me). I will, however, always offer support.

Sometimes I forget about my extensive experience and wonder why I am good at what I do and why I like change. I think a little resume of my career explains this a little!

– Working in pubs and cafes as a student
– University Research
– Factory work
– Debt recovery
– Recruitment
– Customer Services Management
– Teaching ICT, Business Studies and Sociology in 3 different secondary schools plus mentoring new teachers
– Counsellor
– Events management

As well as my voluntary work as a Girl Guides Leader, working as a counsellor for the blind and partially sighted, working on a rape crisis help line, and mentoring ‘looked after’ children.

I’ve done a lot and I have moved around. Being self-employed has been the thing I have stuck at for the longest, mainly because I am in charge of my own destiny. I don’t have to answer to anyone (except the tax man) and if I don’t like what I do, I can change it!

So, let love be your energy, and it be the thing that motivates you.

Juliet x

Tickets: Choice Indulgence Evening, 7 February, 7:00pm – 9:30pm, The KP , Pocklington
Choice Indulgence Evening, 14 March, 7:00pm – 9:30pm, Middlethorpe Hall & Spa, York

A fabulous line up

Here is what’s on offer to
help you relax?

What a wonderful treat

Specially hand picked therapists, consultants and practitioners all here for you.

Chloe Hart from Bodyworks – fabulous 15 minute massage treatments
Lindsay Coldrick – Crystal Chakra Rebalance – gorgeous reiki with crystals

Annette Wilson from Sole Reflex – marvellous reflexology and Indian Head massages
Anna Park – with her gorgeous Forever Living Aloe Vera products
Mike Phan from MPRS – Fitness trainer extraordinaire – he really knows his onions when it comes to fitness and nutrition and very supportive
Jane White from Inspire Hypnotherapy – providing a fabulous relaxation session
Juliet Powell from Choice Therapy – a thought provoking workshop on Emotional Intelligence – what is it and how can we improve ours and other peoples EQ?
Biddie Atkinson from B Fitness & Wellbeing – supporting you with relaxing Reiki treatments
Beth from Bethany Jane Make Up – gorgeous make up, tips and consultations
Jacqueline from Viriam Yoga & Massage – gorgeous yoga relaxation session

Wow we are lucky to have such talent and support in one place.

Take the opportunity to grab one of the remaining tickets.


An Insight into Physical Pain

A bit of a turnabout

Yes, I’ve had a different perspective.

Quite often I blog about the impact of emotional pain on the body. However, I’ve had some personal insight, just a glimmer, a small realisation of what it might be like in the reverse situation – the impact of physical pain on mental health and the emotions. An insight of what it might be like to be elderly or have long term physical illness.And it is just that, an insight, I tore a calf muscle while doing fitness training, a sudden injury which floored me (literally).

I know it will get better, I know I can rest, have physio and massages to help me.

For a while I had to use crutches, had to hop or walk on tip toes, couldn’t drive, run or stretch. I felt pain, I felt helpless, I couldn’t look after myself or my family as I usually do. They couldn’t get used to it and nor could I.

I was stuck inside, couldn’t really go anywhere and it dawned on me that these feelings were common in those who were/are physically ill in the longer term, only much more so. In that short time, I began to feel very low, misunderstood and not supported and tried to explain to people that even though I looked ok (except for a limp) I didn’t feel ok.

I run my own business, I had to cancel events and work as I couldn’t get to them. However, I had to get going quite quickly otherwise my business would falter and I was riddled with guilt that I was letting others down.

So why have I written about this, just to say ‘I get it’, even though it was comparatively brief, I got a sharp reminder of what others feel who are incapacitated for whatever reason. I have worked as a counsellor with the elderly and those with disabilities, I felt empathy and supported them in a variety of ways, now I have some real insight.

For all those people who are suffering long term injury or illness, I really admire you getting through every day and still trying so hard to work or help others in a wide variety of ways.

You are all in my thoughts
Juliet x