Self-Care – why it’s so important

I read an interesting article this morning and I thought I would pick out the interesting bits to share with you. The original article was aimed at therapists who work with clients who have experienced significant trauma. It was extolling the virtues of self-care for the therapists. I can see how the explanation could be relevant for so many people, so this is my take. I would love to hear your thoughts on it.

We know that self-care is talked about a lot, we are encouraged to look after ourselves, take time out, and have some ‘me time’. It feels indulgent, maybe even a waste of money, however, what follows may change your mind.

In order for me to function at a high level for my family and work, I need a support package, a support framework in order to operate at those high standards, this translates as my ‘me time’.

It is no accident that many of the self care experiences we enjoy most, are things that link us to childhood experiences of nurturing – such as hugs, massage and being read to (and in my case chatting to a trusted person).

So we have to take action, we can’t ‘think’ ourselves into better self care, it’s about taking action. These actions support the healthy function of the lower parts of the brain. A lot of self care does not involve words it is something we ‘experience’ and these experiences are usually body based and help us to feel safe and well and support our brains and body experience regulation. (control, management)

If our brain and body feel regulated, we feel calm and vice versa. Being able to stay calm through the use of regular self-care enables us to think more clearly and deal with all that life throws at us and in my case deal with the people I encounter in my business and life.

A one off experience is not going to cut it, in order to build strong habits of self care and therefore a stronger brain (with strong neural connections) we need repetition (this is the same for all activities). A one off class or treatment is lovely, however, it won’t make a significant difference to our wellbeing, we need lots of practice!

Someone else may recommend a course of action, a type of therapy, a class. You are unique and have unique needs for your self care blend or package. My ‘package’ consists of a monthly massage, a monthly reiki session, twice a week fitness class, regular meet ups with like minded business owners, regular bubble baths, regular craft workshops, yoga sessions and hugging my children. Yours may well be zumba, reading, shopping and meditation!

I feel a seasonal snowflake analogy coming up! Like snowflakes we are unique, vary in size but are all beautiful. So do yourself the best favour ever, you owe your body, brain and ability to feel calm to your self-care.

Self-care enables me to do the job I love and take care of the family I love. It doesn’t bear thinking about where we would be without it.

Take care
Juliet x

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Join us for a fabulous Self-Care Evening just outside York with treatments, workshops and gorgeous products on 16 May 2018

Who are our wonderful therapists at Choice Indulgence Evening @middlethorpe?

We are so pleased to be in the gorgeous setting of Middlethorpe Hall. We have hired out the Barlow Room, a specialist room for events just like ours, a lovely quirky room where we are having a fabulous range of therapists and practitioners – one of our best yet.

With just a few hours until our event at The KP Club in Pocklington, it’s a privilege to be having our evening events in such lovely locations.

So who is going to be at Middlethorpe Hall on 14th March?

Jude Robinson – Good Vibrations – Taster Soul Plans
Adela Parzanese-Guerrero – Neal’s Yard – Facials & hand/arm massage
Yvonne Lynn – Your Spirit Matters – Reiki P.E.P Talk
Hazel Smith – Jar Half Full – Reflexology
Lisa Wiles – Hands That Heal – Massage
Elaine White – Natural Entrepreneurs Workspace – Workspace consultations
Lisa & Sammy – Middlethorpe Spa – Facials
Kate Bunney – Magnetix Wellness Bunney – Magnetic Therapy (Kate is doing our show stopper workshop too)
Mike Phan – MPRS – Fitness Consultations
Jayne Brown – Gorgeous Forever Living products
Viv Chamberlin-Kidd – Essentially Shamanic – Aromatouch Hand Massage
Gemma Harris – Harris Sports Massage – Massage

Together we book you in for a 15 minute taster session, you can take part in the show stopping workshop, and receive a complimentary glass of fizz and book yourself in for further sessions for the evening.

Grab one of our 4 remaining tickets:

See you there

Are you missing a trick when it comes to exhibiting at an event?

Do you or would you like to exhibit at events?

Like fairs, trade shows, exhibitions, conferences, expos etc.

I remember when I first did an event, it felt quite scary! Usually, I worked behind my computer, using social media as a way of meeting people, or word of mouth and some networking here and there, I was going to set my business up as a shopfront with no products (!) – finding a way of making counselling a thing that people would come and talk to me about wasn’t easy – selling counselling always felt a bit ‘wrong’ anyway and as for people coming over to me, ahem!!

I quickly realised I would have to do something different to get people over to chat to me. Here are my tops tips to capture people’s imaginations and get them over.

Of course there are basics such as:

– Having a table cloth that covers your table.
– Having your business cards and information leaflets.
– Having a name tag.
– Having holders for your cards and leaflets
– Catching the eye of people as they walk round and smiling at them.

There are lots of other tactics you could try

– Have a compelling offer that is only available if they book at that event or a short time period after.

– Have a competition with a worthwhile prize.

– Have drinks and/or snacks on the table that people will stop and help themselves to.

– Have an object or sign that catches the eye on your table, I have heard of people using tree branches with cards hanging off them, a wheelbarrow of beer, a big model of an animal, a game etc etc

– Offer something practical to do, I love to use essential oils with people so I invite them to make an anti-stress roller or calming room spray. We are busy making something together, chatting, perhaps having a joke, it relaxes people, hopefully they remember me!

– Understand that all events have a ‘flow’ a way that visitors snake around a room in one direction – you may not be able to change where your stand is but you can try and make the best of it.

– Capture visitors details using your prize draw etc.

– Always follow up quickly after an event – timetable it in your diary!

What could you try? Could you use or adapt any of these ideas?

All the best with your event.

PS Would you like to be part of one of my wellbeing events? Click here to sign up

A fabulous line up

Here is what’s on offer to
help you relax?

What a wonderful treat

Specially hand picked therapists, consultants and practitioners all here for you.

Chloe Hart from Bodyworks – fabulous 15 minute massage treatments
Lindsay Coldrick – Crystal Chakra Rebalance – gorgeous reiki with crystals

Annette Wilson from Sole Reflex – marvellous reflexology and Indian Head massages
Anna Park – with her gorgeous Forever Living Aloe Vera products
Mike Phan from MPRS – Fitness trainer extraordinaire – he really knows his onions when it comes to fitness and nutrition and very supportive
Jane White from Inspire Hypnotherapy – providing a fabulous relaxation session
Juliet Powell from Choice Therapy – a thought provoking workshop on Emotional Intelligence – what is it and how can we improve ours and other peoples EQ?
Biddie Atkinson from B Fitness & Wellbeing – supporting you with relaxing Reiki treatments
Beth from Bethany Jane Make Up – gorgeous make up, tips and consultations
Jacqueline from Viriam Yoga & Massage – gorgeous yoga relaxation session

Wow we are lucky to have such talent and support in one place.

Take the opportunity to grab one of the remaining tickets.


Have we all got a book in us?

I started writing a book…..

Many of us think we have a book in us, I certainly do. However, to write a book requires a tremendous amount of time, dedication, thought and most importantly emotional energy.

I didn’t get past half a chapter or so, however, I am proud of what I did write and I certainly found it cathartic and thought provoking.

I thought it might make an interesting series of short blogs. The emphasis is upon looking after ourselves. We have to ensure we are “fit enough” to manage our work and family life. Driving ourselves to burnout helps absolutely nobody.

Here is an introduction I wrote around 12 months ago:

“There’s an event. a catalyst in your life, some bad news, a diagnosis, something from the past re-appears. It floors you – how do you cope? Where do you turn? Who do you turn to?

For me it was a piece of overwhelming news the type that sends you on a seemingly never ending downward spiral. Anger, dismay and deep, debilitating sadness. Something that feels unrecoverable from. My view of the world changed.

No one will understand, no one wants to hear such news.

But here I am happy, running a business and very proud of my family, five years on from that terrifying news.

What did I do to support myself and my family? I subconsciously created my support package and you can too…..”

Just from this short introduction you can start to see why I feel the work I do and in particular the Indulgence Evenings are so important to me. I offer you choices on how to support yourself through whatever you are going through. They evening is about indulgence, however, for me the therapies and treatments are about support and at times survival.

I have and do use all these therapies and more at times. Many of the therapists and practitioners I have worked with, I found them supportive, helpful and I enjoyed working with them.

Come along and meet them (and me if you haven’t already, I am doing a mini-workshop on Emotional Intelligence on the evening).

Pssst, as I always do, I have 5 extra special half price tickets for you lovely people, this offer ends on Sunday night at 11:30pm.

I look forward to welcoming you.

 Juliet x