“Don’t Big Up Your Part!”

What one thing would you NOT say to a parent of a child with additional needs or adopted child?

When discussing my contribution to my children’s education that very phrase was uttered by a member of school staff.

To a parent who has tirelessly advocated and campaigned for their child, the endless meetings in school and at the council offices, the parent in the playground (the one you back off from) when the TA, teacher or headteacher approaches, “Can I have a word, Mrs Powell?”.

The parent who volunteered to go into school one afternoon a week to support their child in the face of nothing else available.

The parent who was telephoned that often the she developed a fairly debilitating phobia of the telephone.

The parent who had to read negative comments ad-infinitum in the school planner about behaviour from teachers who had little or no knowledge of attachment in the classroom and when I answered the comments was told to STOP (trying to silence me?!).

The parent who has faced discrimination and misunderstanding at every turn.

The parent who went part-time and then gave up work altogether to support her children.

The parent who re-trained as a counsellor so she could better understand her children and help them, who ran support groups for parents (and school always came up as an area of difficulty) who did workshops and worked one to one with parents and now runs health & wellbeing events, many of which are attended by parents.

The parent who keeps going when she feels like knocking her head against a brick wall with school.

The parent who is watching their child’s mental health deteriorate as a result of lack of understanding in school (and on suicide watch).

The parent who will never give up.


I should be shouting it from the rooftops – I should be in ‘The Press’ (I have about my parent support groups), I should be in the national press and magazines – (I was about school transition), I should be on the local radio (I have on many occasions about parent support groups and my wellness evenings), I should be on national radio (net yet), I should be on national TV (I was once invited).

I should be paid handsomely for advocacy, campaigning and negotiation skills (chance would be a fine thing).

I’m the reason my children get up for school every single day and do their best.

Here I am “bigging” up my part.
My tireless, relentless, tenacious part as a parent and advocate for my child in school.

I have a BIG part, a HUGE part to play as has every parent in how their children do in school.

Is that clear? (I am shouting now!)


Are you a parent or foster carer of a child from care? I am running a self-care evening aimed at you and after this I think I need it too!

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Who are our wonderful therapists at Choice Indulgence Evening @middlethorpe?

We are so pleased to be in the gorgeous setting of Middlethorpe Hall. We have hired out the Barlow Room, a specialist room for events just like ours, a lovely quirky room where we are having a fabulous range of therapists and practitioners – one of our best yet.

With just a few hours until our event at The KP Club in Pocklington, it’s a privilege to be having our evening events in such lovely locations.

So who is going to be at Middlethorpe Hall on 14th March?

Jude Robinson – Good Vibrations – Taster Soul Plans
Adela Parzanese-Guerrero – Neal’s Yard – Facials & hand/arm massage
Yvonne Lynn – Your Spirit Matters – Reiki P.E.P Talk
Hazel Smith – Jar Half Full – Reflexology
Lisa Wiles – Hands That Heal – Massage
Elaine White – Natural Entrepreneurs Workspace – Workspace consultations
Lisa & Sammy – Middlethorpe Spa – Facials
Kate Bunney – Magnetix Wellness Bunney – Magnetic Therapy (Kate is doing our show stopper workshop too)
Mike Phan – MPRS – Fitness Consultations
Jayne Brown – Gorgeous Forever Living products
Viv Chamberlin-Kidd – Essentially Shamanic – Aromatouch Hand Massage
Gemma Harris – Harris Sports Massage – Massage

Together we book you in for a 15 minute taster session, you can take part in the show stopping workshop, and receive a complimentary glass of fizz and book yourself in for further sessions for the evening.

Grab one of our 4 remaining tickets: 

See you there

Why connect with other wellbeing businesses?

I’ve thought for a while, that you need to be selective about your networking (whatever form that takes). You could end up charging around the county, trying a ton out, forking out hundreds of pounds for the big referral groups and making slow progress.

You need a goal for the networking, if you are hoping for referrals, choose your group wisely.

Networking is not just about referrals, however, it may be that you want to learn about other businesses and how they operate, it maybe that you want to meet new people and have a social element to networking, it may be that you want to meet like-minded people or collaborate. It maybe that you are after training, workshops or business support (or all of the above!)

What ever your reasons, be clear about them. You may join different groups for different reasons. I go to a variety of groups: one group is very supportive, one group has a good social element and one group where I have much clearer business goals.

So why have I started my own wellbeing group?
There are a few reasons actually: I want to meet other people in the industry, I want to work with them through my own business, I think people working as therapists come at business in a different way to many other business owners and I think this group of business owners is unique in many ways. It can be a useful means of support for those of us who work hard to support others therapeutically.

Would you find the group useful?
Do you answer yes to any of the following?
– I work with clients and would find the group supportive
– My ideal client is someone who works in the wellbeing industry.
– I want to collaborate with wellbeing professionals
– I have client referrals I would like to pass on and receive back
– I want a chance to reflect on my business practice
– I would like signposting for business training
– I want support with moving up and on in my business

At the moment the group is free as it gets established, soon we will charge a small fee to facilitate the group – your first meeting is free, so you get a chance to see if it’s for you.

Register here to secure your place in this unique group.


Be Kind to Yourself

Am I a bit late with my New Year posting?!

You may not be surprised to hear that I feel sluggish in January, it takes me a while to come round after 2 weeks away from work. I completely switch off and enjoy the break. As a family we mainly share the tasks of Christmas, although I do heavily feature in the present buying department. We share housework, cooking, present wrapping and tidying up. I decided I wasn’t going to run myself into the ground taking on everything, not my idea of fun.

As I sit at my desk, I am taking my time to get motivated, I have my Himalayan salt lamp glowing away and my essential oils diffuser giving off lots of lovely scents of rosemary, peppermint and lemon – hoping it will help me with focus, concentration and memory! I have a Christmas voucher for a massage – all ready to be booked and enjoyed. I am not beating myself up about getting everything done this week. (The children only just went back to school today after all!) I spent yesterday creating a Vision Board with two colleagues – cutting and sticking lots of images and words that inspire me – I didn’t dwell on the whys and wherefores, I just got on with it and felt better for it.

I think what I am getting at is that I have spent a lot of time in the past making sure I had my survival package in place, a group of people I can call on in a professional capacity to get me through – therapists, business support professionals, coaches, yoga teachers etc – people I can rely upon, I don’t have to think too hard, I know I can contact them to get me through, whatever.

This is what the Choice Indulgence Evenings are all about – bringing together people you can call upon for support whenever you need it, as well as feeling pampered and looked after.

So join us for our next event at The KP Club, Pocklington for therapies, treatments, gorgeous products and supportive, interesting workshops. It could be the best 20 quid you spend this year. All treatments, workshops and a glass of fizz are included.

Line Up:
– Indian Head Massage or Arm/Hand Massage with Emma (Holistic Arts Yorkshire)
– Essential Oil Experience, try oils 3 ways with Tricia (Experience Essentials)
– Alexander technique session with Jane (Jane Clappison, Alexander Technique Therapy)
– Reiki session with Biddie (B Fitness & Wellbeing)
– Semi-permanent make up consultation with Lauren (Lauren Cook Micropigmentation)
– Acupuncture consultation with Lisa (Wolds Acupuncture)
– Kinesiology session with Claire (Bizvits)
– Skincare Consultation with Charlotte (The Beauty Room)
– Back, Neck, Shoulder Massage with Susannah (Susannah Stuart Massage)
– Magnetix Jewellery with Kate Bunney
– Jewellery Workshops with Helen (Silver & Stone Jewellery Design)
– Forever Living Products with Jane Jackson

‘Leaping the Oh Shit Dip’ a taster on how to get unstuck and live” with Siobhan & Tina
“How to create a stronger core and pelvic floor, and why it’s important?” with Biddie
“Using Kinesiology in your everyday life” with Claire


Ticket Link: www.indulgencekp.eventbrite.co.uk

Let Love be Your Energy

As the year is winding down, it has put me in reflective mood.

I caught the end of Radio 2’s ‘Pause for Thought’ this morning, I missed most of it, however, the contributor was summing up and said the words, “Let Love be Your Energy” and it struck me, this is what moves me forward. I have found untold strength and energy from the love of my adopted children, battled negativity from every turn – with the thought – I don’t care what you think of me – when it comes to my business, I just want people to take care of themselves, and for my family, I just want you to understand and consider how you treat people.

It feels like my business is always evolving, I change what I offer and sometimes who I work with. However, the common thread through everything I do is ‘support’. Working one to one with counselling clients, offering business support to therapeutic business owners, providing therapy mini-sessions through the Choice Indulgence Evening and running DIY Pamper Evenings and Parties. I feel like I will always be someone who is motivated and enthused by change and project work (perhaps why running events appeals to me). I will, however, always offer support.

Sometimes I forget about my extensive experience and wonder why I am good at what I do and why I like change. I think a little resume of my career explains this a little!

– Working in pubs and cafes as a student
– University Research
– Factory work
– Debt recovery
– Recruitment
– Customer Services Management
– Teaching ICT, Business Studies and Sociology in 3 different secondary schools plus mentoring new teachers
– Counsellor
– Events management

As well as my voluntary work as a Girl Guides Leader, working as a counsellor for the blind and partially sighted, working on a rape crisis help line, and mentoring ‘looked after’ children.

I’ve done a lot and I have moved around. Being self-employed has been the thing I have stuck at for the longest, mainly because I am in charge of my own destiny. I don’t have to answer to anyone (except the tax man) and if I don’t like what I do, I can change it!

So, let love be your energy, and it be the thing that motivates you.

Juliet x

Tickets: Choice Indulgence Evening, 7 February, 7:00pm – 9:30pm, The KP , Pocklington
Choice Indulgence Evening, 14 March, 7:00pm – 9:30pm, Middlethorpe Hall & Spa, York