Me too….

Two of the most powerful words when talking to other parents are “Me too” feeling like you are not the only one struggling with this, seeing things from a difficult angle, getting someone else’s perspective, seeing a humorous side to the situation, feeling like you can get back to family life and have resolve to carry on.

I’m always very careful to say that the Parent Social is not a workshop or a support group. The way they work very much depends on who comes along that day. I like to pose a few questions, get everyone thinking. The Parent Social is a chance to share some of the things going on, with other parents – friendships, bullying, social media, worries, relationships, school, siblings etc.

We often lose contact with other parents as our children grow up and especially during secondary school and college. What’s lovely about the socials is that it’s a diverse group that come from different areas of York and further afield.

We do have more of a permanent home at the Friends Meeting House, Acomb, York YO26 5LR. I hope that makes it easier for people to find us on a regular basis. (I am also continuing to work with York Nurturing Community and run sessions in Derwenthorpe.)

As a celebration there is a special offer, tickets are £4 (bring a friend for free) which includes hot drinks and a snack, just pay on the door.

If you are wondering who the heck I am (!) go to my website to read a bit more,link.

See you there
Juliet x

Why do we need a vision?

The truth is, we don’t need a vision, you can live your life without one, moving from one decision to another, paying the bills, continuing in the same way with the same routine and really, there is no harm in that.

Apart from, I think most people harbour a dream: somewhere they want to be, a house they would like, a situation they would like to be in, a car they would like. But what stops them?

Not seeing a path to that dream – it seeming too distant, unobtainable.

I’ll let you in to a secret – I have always wanted to go white water rafting down the Zambezi river, ever since I was a teenager. I went canoeing in southern France (La Ardeche) and we manoeuvred some white water, that planted a seed. As I grew up it was forgotten about……. until this summer I went canoeing with my family on the much more sedate La Vezere, yes it awakened something?

What happened to that dream? Why didn’t I work my way towards it? I guess life got in the way, that year I was finishing college and getting ready to go to university where there were other adventures to be had, then starting work, changing careers, getting married etc etc.

An itch has begun (!) I would like to do it now, while I am still able, navigate the river in high water. However, it’s pretty expensive, I’ve got to get to Zambia, the accommodation, the rafting itself and all the rest.

Apart from I can start building on ideas to get me there, make sure I have the income to pay for the trip, the business to generate an income so I can pay for it. This feels motivating I think I can find a way.

Previously, when I have reached goals and lived out my dreams what have I done before?

Quite simply I have written my goals down, in a nice book, in my best handwriting, and because I have stated my intent, they have all happened in one way or another (except one!). What else have I done? I have created vision boards – quite simply a visual way of displaying where I would like my life to go – who do I want to work with? what hours do I need to do? how many holidays would I like? how would I like to be thought of? what materials things would I like to have? what would I like to earn?

Now, it needs updating, my ambitions, dreams and goals need revising (if I am to get to Zambia).

A great opportunity for me and my motivator group to have a go together, build a vision for our businesses, our lives and our ambitions, just by creating a board or book, supporting each other in the process.

Want to find out more?
email me: juliet@choicetherapyyork.com
Check out the FB event

Juliet

Supporting You and Your Business

Times of trouble….

I run a small business, in counselling known as a private practice. To be part of my professional body I must have monthly supervision – the role of the supervision is to support me with my work with clients, to challenge my ways of thinking and working, being a counsellor is emotionally demanding and supervision is vital to ensure balance and ethical conduct. I have mentored and managed many people through my role as a counsellor and previously. As the supervisee or mentee it feels great to be supported and thought about and have time dedicated to your professional practice.

Many small business owners do not have a compulsory element of supervision, although they may seek it out to help them.

Having spoken to colleagues, friends and clients it felt like people would like some support either practically or emotionally so in June 2016 I set up 2 groups:

My Motivator Sessions provide an opportunity to discuss areas of your business you are stuck with or would like some clarity with, sometimes we will get into pairs and bounce ideas or talk within the whole group, you will get a chance to research, start or do some planning around the issue, then we will spend some time at the end reflecting or summarising what we want to do next. These sessions are 2 hours long. You will receive a warm welcome, a cuppa and a snack. Find out more

Time: 10am – 12pm

Date: Wednesday 21 September 2016

Place: Pure Zest, Forest Farm Business Park, Fulford, York, YO19 4RH

Tickets: £15

The Choice Therapeutic Support Group began after offering 3 individual workshops to small business owners. The group offers strategies for business owners who would like support continuing their business while dealing with those parts of life outside of their business. It felt like a more regular meeting would be beneficial. The group provides space to look at personal issues and the practicalities of running a business. The sessions are structured to allow you to look at your life and business and support others. A comfortable, supportive, welcoming atmosphere guaranteed!
These sessions are 2 hours long. Find out more
Time: 9:30am – 11:30am
Date: Thursday 29 September 2016
Place: Friends Meeting House, Acomb Green, YO26 5LR
Tickets: £15

I use tried and tested strategies used in counselling and mentoring (with some Choice Therapy zing!) and those who have attended in the past have given me excellent feedback (FEEDBACK). We also have some short exercises to get you thinking and reflecting.

Contact me to reserve your place.

Juliet

juliet@choicetherapyyork.com

The Latest from Choice Therapy, Parent Social and the Fair

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I had no intention of taking virtually the whole summer off work but it does seem to have been like that! I continued to see clients, however, my workshops, socials and Fair planning had a break and it was great (if a little trying!) to spend time with my family and get away on holiday and a few camping trips thrown in.

I hope your summer went well, I must admit half way through I started to struggle, it seemed so long until my children went back to school and we had already had our main holiday and the summer stretched out in front of us, with a bit of support and asking for help and an unplanned camping trip we did make it through and now they are back.

So now, I am back full of great ideas and plans which my break helped me to give consideration to and see a way forward with the socials and workshops.

PARENT SOCIAL UPDATE
I am very pleased that I have at last found a more permanent location for the Parent Socials, I loved meeting everyone in the great local cafes (and there’s no reason why we can’t sometimes still do that) but I did feel that some people couldn’t be so open, as there were other people around, also moving the day and location meant some people couldn’t keep track of when and where it was. A stroke of luck meant I contacted the Friends Meeting House in Acomb (very close to me) and asked if I could use a room there and it has all come together. I am also hoping to use the venue for my workshops there too in the future. Click the link below to find out more:
Parent Socials

HEALTH & WELLNESS FAIR NEWS
The second Choice Therapy – Health & Wellness Fair is also well underway. I am really pleased we are at Lidgett Grove Methodist Church in Acomb, York. We are having a Saturday afternoon fair aimed at parents and families with therapists, practitioners, wellness product providers, mini workshops and talks all there to support you and your family. We already have massage, yoga, reiki, kinesiology, essential oils, colour consultation, spiritual healing, counselling, parent support, aromatherapy, laughter therapy, crystals and lots more. Your chance to have proper conversations, listen to experienced wellness providers, try out treatments, have a cuppa and a chat. Entry is £2 for adults and children are free. We look forward to meeting you and welcoming you to the Fair.

Details:
Date: Saturday 15th October
Time: 1pm-3:30pm
Place: Lidgett Grove Methodist Church, Wheatlands Grove, York, YO26 5NH
Tickets: Adults – £2 Children – Free
(If you would like a stand get in touch to find out how to reserve your place, there are only a few remaining)

WORKSHOPS UPDATE
Choice Therapy have launched the 2016 -2017 workshop programme supporting parents of tweens (8+) and teens. Our first workshop is on supporting ourselves and our children with starting secondary school and is on 30 September in my airy attic room on Wetherby Road, Acomb. These workshops are small, supportive, informative, helpful and empowering.
See the link below to my website to find out more:
Workshops

ONE TO ONE UPDATE
If you could do with a session or 2, one to one with me, talking in confidence about your life, family or situation, get in touch to arrange a 1 hour session – help lighten the load, get something off your chest, find out what support is available. Talk to someone who understands and gets it.
email me on: juliet@choicetherapyyork.com

So I think you are up to date now, get in touch if you want more information or just to say hello.

Have a great September
Juliet x

Really excited about the next Health & Wellness Fair

The next Fair will be on Saturday 15th October 1pm-3:30pm at Lidgett Grove Methodist Church in Acomb. It’s a great venue with free parking and easily accessible from the A64 and A1237.

This autumn fair will be a little different the previous one. The target audience is young families, so I am keen to attract therapists, wellness product providers and activity providers who cater for this market either the parents or the children (or both). If you know anyone who may be interested please forward this to them. I would also love the business owners to be from North Yorkshire and be locally owned where possible.

There are 18 stalls available (£20 each) and five 20 minute mini-workshops or taster sessions (£10 each). I am keen, as previously to have a blend of different stalls and mini-workshops that would appeal to the those attending, to maintain interest, that’s really important.

Thanks to those that have already shown an interest, I’ll be in touch soon with more information.

To express your interest please drop me an email using the link below:

All the very best for the rest of the summer.

Juliet x